Studies have shown that if you are a poor kisser you cut your chances of building a long term relationship with a woman by almost half. This means that if you lack kissing skills you have a fifty-fifty or so chance of a woman continuing a relationship with you much beyond the point where she figures out that you don't know how to kiss.
This is not to say that there aren't women out there that don't continue on with a relationship with a man who doesn't know how to really light her fire with a kiss. For the other half of the female population a man that isn't the greatest kisser in the world is still ok… although she would be thrilled to death if you did know how to curl her toes with a kiss.
Do you wonder if you are a good kisser or not? A simple test is to think back and try to remember if all of your past girlfriends commented on your kissing abilities. If you haven't heard consistently from all or at least most of your past girlfriends that you are a great kisser then there is a very good chance that you aren't. Women love to kiss and they do judge men on their kissing abilities. This is usually one of the topics of conversation between your girlfriend and her friends after you have been dating for a while.
All hope is not lost though if you lack kissing skills and abilities. Just like any skill, kissing can be learned and the talent improved upon if you are willing. And what a fun thing to learn! You can rest assured that your girlfriend or wife will appreciate the effort and notice the change in you almost immediately.
Here are a couple of tips to help you get started down the road to becoming a really talented kisser and how to heat things up with your girlfriend or wife.
The A Frame – Tighten up the A frame when you kiss her. What this means is when you are kissing your bodies make the letter A… very much like a step ladder. Tighten things up and move closer to her. Press your body against hers when you're kissing. Perhaps even place your hand against the small of her back and pull her close to you.
There is a good chance that you might not even notice that you're standing with a foot or so of space between you when you're kissing. You will be surprised by how much more intimate and steamy your kissing is with things tightened up now. Try it…you'll like it.
Open Mouth – Don't forget the inbetween stage of kissing leading up to French kissing. Tease her with this in between stage of simple open mouth kissing as things begin to heat up. You can even make a game of it and see who will be the first one to go to full French kissing. Of course, don't let it go on too long or she'll just think that you're weird and that you don't know how to French kiss. Some women just aren't as aggressive and won't make that step until you do.
The Neck – The neck, shoulders, ears and collar bone are all great areas to kiss if you need to take a breather or wish to mix things up a little bit. Experiment and let her tell you with her reaction what areas are sensitive and what makes her happy.
Vary things with open mouth kisses on her neck and collar bone area and also little French kisses in these areas alternating with gentle blowing on the area that you just kissed. Either a gently breath or air from your open mouth or your nose will create a cooling sensation. Be careful around the ears with this technique though. Remember, gentle blowing on her neck will be very loud and perhaps even annoying in her ear.
Take a few of these tips to heart and you might be surprised with the reaction that you get from your girlfriend or wife. A man that really knows how to kiss is cherished and kissing is a skill that is often overlooked by men. It is not only a step that leads to more intimate acts but it is one of the more thoughtful and appreciated signs of affection that you can give to a woman. Why not learn how to do it well?